Affair recovery. Communication problems. Reconciling betrayals. Adjusting to life transitions. These are some of the things I help couples with . A couple that comes to see me might be feeling some of the following . . .
“I really love my spouse. But there are some issues we need to work out that are getting in the way of us being happy together.”
“If you could just help him/her with . . . We could be really happy.”
“Neither one of us are happy with our sex life but we are not sure why.”
“I do all the heavy lifting in this relationship and I’m becoming resentful.”
Ever since . . . We just don't know how to move forward.
"We are just not as connected as we used to be. I’m afraid of where we are headed if we don’t work this out. We need help.”
Couples often come to therapy with the hope that one can team up with the therapist to fix the other. My approach is to help couples recognize the cycles that play out on a day to day basis. Whether you are fighting over socks on the floor, finances, or sex, the patterns are often the same. In therapy, we look at what defenses are coming up that block authentic communication and vulnerable connection. We explore the parts of you which might be needing to evolve over time and within the context of the couple.
Transitions can be tricky - dating to marriage, marriage to family, kids to empty nest, and all the smaller transitions that happen at the same time, These moments can leave one or both partners wondering who they are in the context of all that is going on. I wouldn’t do this work if I didn’t believe that love and commitment can get you through the tough things. Not only do I believe in the power of your love and commitment to get you through it, I believe addressing these challenges with love and support will help you grow through it.
I can help couples who want to work on:
Transition (premarital counseling, expanding family, grief, etc)
Addressing big topics like money, sex, in-laws, etc.
Infidelity and other betrayals
If you have questions about whether or not I can help you, please feel free to contact me for a free 20 minute phone consultation. If I feel I cannot help, I will do my best to help you find someone who can.
Limited sliding scale appointments are available. I am not in network with insurance companies, but can provide a "superbill" for out of network reimbursement. Weekend and evening appointments available.
Recommended for first session and couples who need more time to open up.
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